It is important in every aspect of life to write the vision. You cannot navigate this life without vision. The scriptures read, “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:1). Where there is no direction, no guidance, no instruction in the right way to go, no knowledge, no wisdom, and no understanding, you can expect the people to move about aimlessly and hopelessly.
This is why you might find people choosing a life of crime or choosing not to make life work for them in a productive way. They rely solely on whatever comes in their heads to do, and then they merely do that very thing, even if it is to the detriment of sanity, livelihood, and/or safety.
People would rather choose to engage in a life of crime, and strangely call that vision, than to walk out this life step by step by attending school, going to work, and managing everyday life tasks. It is much easier and gratifying to engage hastily than to maintain stability.
Becoming a Doctor Example
Not everyone understands the importance of vision, which is essentially seeing into the future while you are still in the present. You must have a vision for yourself of what you want to become, what you want to do, and how you will carry out that vision. You must see yourself different.
For example, if you want to become a doctor, you are usually exposed to a doctor first. You went to see a doctor as a child and something about that encounter made you think that becoming a doctor is for you. You told your parents about the doctor you saw and how you basically picked him to become him. Mom and dad bought you toys that reflected what a doctor might use on patients, and you acted like a doctor while still being a child.
Then later in your development you did well in biology and science classes, some math classes, and you began walking out the steps towards becoming what you saw as a child. Not too long after that you were in college, then in medical school, and lastly finished your residency. You are now a doctor! Keep in mind that before you became your future, you had to envision that future in your present.
Writing down the vision started with one vision of becoming a doctor, and then this created mini mission statements that included informing the high school guidance counselor, filling out admissions applications, attending college admissions events, attending core classes, finishing and completing multiple degree levels, and maintaining these missions throughout your development, not veering off to the left or to the right but by staying focused!
The doctor example is one that is most useful because it takes time, preparation, and consistent conscientiousness to stay the course, especially when the vision is a long ways off. Your vision of becoming a doctor during childhood will have its challenges during your teenage years all the way to young adulthood. That is a long time to stay with one goal.
However, there are numerous examples of people from different backgrounds and socioeconomic levels who have envisioned themselves doing the same thing, set it as a goal, and then followed through. That tells you that it can be done.
Why Stability is Important
Stability is the most underrated quality and/or character trait that people tend to ignore, abandon, disregard, scoff at, mock, have a disdain for, and spit at! As strange as it is to write that last word, it is still nonetheless true because if you envision a stable person and you are not stable, you tend to ignore, disregard, mock, and spit at that person as if in spitting you hope to change their nature or their belief system.
But when someone is stable, this suggests a lot about how they envision the world, how they envision their participation, and how they envision their contribution. Again, it all begins with the vision, and people who choose stability instead of dysfunction and chaos are often the people who are mistreated, laughed at, and held in contempt.
This begs the following question: Why do we mock the person who is stable?
This is an interesting question to ask because if you research the definition, you will discover that the word “stable” is essentially defined as sane, sensible, and well-balanced. This suggests that if you do not pursue stability, which means a state of being stable, then you are pursuing the opposite of stable. To be unstable means you are prone to change, fail, or give away. It is the unbalanced to the well-balanced dynamic.
This discussion further suggests that people make a choice to be unstable in a world that is largely stable. Of course, on the one hand, we have ensuing wars and crime and other dynamics that might shake the foundations of who we are, what we are supposed to do, what we believe, where we need to go, and how we should plan our way out of any setback in pursuit of recovery.
On the other hand, we live in a world with laws, policies, guidance, security, and education. We do not want for anything that we cannot access through libraries, colleges, and organizations. The times we live in today afford us greater opportunities to pursue stability than days when the mortality rate was high and people were generally in fear for their lives.
Even if this may be true today given current circumstances with the pandemic and the Russia-Ukraine War, we still have more at our disposal to cause and maintain change than to embrace the opposite argument that change is not possible and that we must decide to do everything we can to keep change from going forth.
Write the Vision
Write the vision of stability because stability is important. It is important for you to operate from a place of balance so that you can make decisions that are long-lasting. We need to quit operating from this place of dysfunction to justify the dysfunctional decisions we make.
It is the statement I hear people say all the time, “You don’t know where I come from.” The problem with that statement is that you are still in agreement with where you come from instead of designing ways to stay out of where you come from and move into a place of stability for yourself.
I have always said to people in passing that if you did not get all that you needed or wanted when you were growing up, as an adult, you may have to (re)parent yourself. This does not mean give yourself the world. You have a lifetime for that goal. This does not mean that you give yourself all the material possessions you can hold. Life is not based solely on money and material possessions. You don’t need as much as you think you need, especially when what you may be categorizing as a need is really a want.
Regardless, if you have struggled with some aspects of your life that were not conducive for success in the past and that may have had an impact on how you conduct yourself in the present, then it is important that you write the vision for your future. There is truly no need to keep repeating the patterns of your parents, your bloodline, your generation, your upbringing, or any related context or environment to be successful or to use as fuel to move you forward.
Moving forward is just necessary. It should not be an optional enterprise. You have been moving forward since you took your first steps as a baby. You have moved forward every since those steps. Therefore, you have history to rely upon, and history is always a great indicator of how you should write the vision of stability.
Therefore, write the vision of stability.
Thank you for reading.
Regina Y. Favors, Owner/Operator
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