Pre-Singles

Welcome to the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Series Curriculum.

This multi-audio series includes major book and online learning content. The forthcoming book offers strategies on how to become a single adult. This page and the series are in development.

The full series is organized into lessons and case studies and further divided topically and thematically. An overview of the curriculum structure follows.

Book Title (This section is under development. Last rev. 1/4/2022, 4/5/2022, 4/25/2022)

The following title is coming soon and will be available on Amazon by end of April/May 2022.

The Favors Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Seminar: Introduction to the Series

General Introduction

Single women should be knowledgeable about what it means to be single and how to navigate their singleness regardless of a decision to date or marry.

This means that single women should take the necessary time to learn about their singleness; set academic, professional, and personal goals; and contemplate whether they are ready to enter the dating market. Single women should never enter the dating market without a goal and a plan.

Therefore, one of the most important aspects of being a single woman is that you can plan your transition, establish a time schedule, set mating preferences, and learn about how men and women date.

Mission Statements

Personal Mission Statement  

My mission is to create content that educates women on pre-planning necessary as a single adult individual by using my abilities as a teacher and writer and conscientiousness to encourage women into discovery and use of their gifts and talents before marital consideration. 

Program Mission Statement 

The mission of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum is to prepare women to enter singleness and make sound life decisions through proper planning, researching, and writing. 

Purpose

The purpose of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum is to help single women contemplate the levels of singleness before they consider moving out of singleness into a romantic relationship, potentially leading to marriage.

Book(s)

The additional current book title is being considered. Writing is progress.

Becoming a Single Adult.

This section is in development.

Series Organization

The series is divided into the following parts:

  • Part One: Life Planning Objectives
  • Part Two: Prospective Relationship Series

Audio lectures are included under both parts and housed on this site.

Part One: Life Planning Objectives

The Life Planning Objectives represent a collection of audio lectures. The following audio list reflects the foundation of the series.

  • General Planning: Establishing Objectives
  • General Planning: Academic Planning
  • General Planning: Career Planning
  • Pre-Marriage Planning: Pre-Marital Planning
  • Pre-Marriage Planning: Prenuptial Agreement Planning
  • Pre-Marriage Planning: Dating With Purpose Plan
  • Long-Term Planning: Two-Year Planning
  • Long-Term Planning: Five-Year Planning
  • Long-Term Planning: Your Assignment, Gift & Talent Plan
  • Legacy Planning: Tax Planning
  • Legacy Planning: Estate Planning
  • Legacy Planning: Trusts Planning

The audio lectures are organized topically and thematically.

What is Pre-Singles Counseling?

Pre-Singles Counseling is based in a decision to enter or exit singleness.

Pre-Singles is the time period between single and contemplation of dating. There is a difference between being a single individual and being a single individual who has entered the dating market, which includes the sex market.

Pre-Singles Counseling is the processes by which an individual researches, learns, and plans to navigate life either as a single, a dating single, or a single interested in marriage.

Pre-Singles Counseling Defined

Pre-Singles counseling is defined as the research processes and planning for entering a state of singlehood. The main target audience is 18 to 45 years of age; however, middle school to high school students are considered. Processes include:

Single to Single: transitional time prior to entering the dating market at any age

Single to Dating Single: transitional time prior to considering marriage

Single Dating to Marriage: transitional time prior to and after pre-marital counseling

Pre-Singles counseling is the immediate strategy of adopting life plans to manage the self as a responsible, individual adult up to and including a major life change.

Why You Should Embrace Single

Embracing your singleness provides the time necessary for self-discovery.

Embracing your singleness gives you time to create a life plan strategy.

Embracing your singleness offers the opportunity to self-assess knowledge gaps, address personal issues and problems, and establish immediate goal objectives.

Embracing your singleness begins the process of creating financial stability objectives. Financial stability should begin as early as middle to high school.

Embracing your singleness allows you to understand the following transitions:

•Understanding transition begins with determining if you want to enter the dating market, whether you are in high school or as an adult.

•Understanding transition begins with considerations of marriage, whether after high school or as an adult. The first step towards consideration of marriage is to understand the psychology of dating the opposite sex.

•Understanding transition begins with setting two-year and five-year goals to establish records of successes and contemplate career planning.

Essentially, embracing your singleness allows you to set immediate, two-year, five-year, and ten-year life planning objectives.

Lecture Learning Objectives

By the end of this online course, students will be able to do the following:

•Recall past experiences being single, dating, and struggling with emotional regulation.

•Self-assess their strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats as a single individual.

•Create two-year and five-year plans. Review career plans.

•Write tentative financial plans.

•Prepare for legacy.

Pre-Lecture Discussion Questions

Are you single?

This question means single without separation, or dating rotation, or on-again/off-again boyfriend, or any other romantic relationship, including rebounding and dating.

•Why are you single?

•Are you enduring a recent separation from a romantic partner?

•Do you plan to remain single?

•What are your plans to change from single to a member of a romantic couple or marriage?

•Do you have a financial plan as a single woman?

What is Your SWOT?

•What are your strengths?

•What are your weaknesses?

•What are your opportunities?

•What are your threats?

Audio Lectures

Establishing Objectives

This brief video outlines the objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video. 

Academic Planning

This brief video outlines the academic planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.  

Career Planning

This brief video outlines the career planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.  

Pre-Marital Planning

This brief video outlines the pre-marital planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.   

Prenuptial Agreement Plan

This brief video outlines the prenuptial agreement planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.    

Dating With Purpose Plan

This brief video outlines the dating with purpose planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.     

Two-Year Planning

This brief video outlines the two-year planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.      

Five-Year Planning

This brief video outlines the five-year planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.

Your Assignment, Gift & Talent Plan

This brief video outlines your assignment, gift, and talent planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.        

Tax Planning

This brief video outlines tax planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.       

Estate Planning

This brief video outlines estate planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.        

Trusts Planning

This brief video outlines trusts planning objectives you should consider as you create life plans. It is a section of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum Orientation video.         

This ends the life planning objectives. The next section and audio lectures introduce you to planning objectives required before entering and engaging in a romantic relationship.

Part Two: Prospective Relationship Series Content

The Prospective Relationship Series Content represents a collection of audio lectures. The following audio list reflects the foundation of the series.

  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Understanding the Gift of Singleness, An Orientation
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: The Mating Market & Mate Poaching
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: The Mate Switching Hypothesis
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Retention Behaviors
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Retention Behaviors
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Preference
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Good Girls Don’t Date
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Why Alpha Males Do Not Win in the End
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: Why Won’t You Let Me Hit?
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: 9/10/, 7/8, 5/6, Which One Has Value?
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: When They See You as a 7/8
  • Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: You Cannot Compete With a Baby

The audio lectures are organized topically and thematically.

Audio Lectures

Understanding the Gift of Singleness, An Orientation

This orientation document provides the guiding mission and suggests strategies for how to become single before dating and/or marriage consideration. 

Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Retention Behaviors

This lesson, titled “Mate Value and Mate Retention Behaviors,” explores how mate value predicts mate retention for romantic partners who may be dating and/or married.

Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Preference

This lesson, titled “Mate Value and Mate Preference,” explores how mate preference is predicated on the social expectation for mate value. Those who fall under the global standard of beauty are often perceived as higher value mates and are preferred.

The Mating Market

Lesson: The Mate Switching Hypothesis

This lesson titled, “The Mate Switching Hypothesis,” explores how individuals mate switch based on mate value and/or mate preference.

Lesson: The Mating Market & Mate Poaching

This lesson titled, “The Mate Market and Mate Poaching,” explores how high value individuals will mate poach when they feel the potential partner’s mate is lower than high value, i.e., a lower value mate.

Case Study: Alpha Males Do Not Win in the End

This case study titled, “Alpha Males Do Not Win in the End,” explores the strategies of alpha males and the concluding argument that they will eventually burn out resulting from those toxic-based strategies.

Dating & Rankings

Case Study: 9/10, 7/8, 5/6, Which One Has High Value?

This case study titled, “9/10, 7/8, 5/6: Which One Has High Value?” explores how men rank women based on a scale of one to 10, how men view their flexibility to move between rankings based on socially perceived physical attractiveness, and how decisions may affect one’s mate value, both positively and negatively.

Lesson: Good Girls Don’t Date

This lesson titled, “Good Girls Don’t Date,” explores how good girls should self-assess their potential and follow-through in the sex markets to determine if they have the capacity to navigate dating. 

Case Study: When They See You as a 7/8

This case study titled, “When They See You as a 7/8,” explores how social perception of female and/or 7/8s might be based on the argument that if you are a 7/8, you might fall under three areas (reasons): 1) you might be an alternative, 2) you may not be competitive, and/or 3) you may be a rebound in the dating market. This lecture is separated into the three videos in the last section.

When They See You as a 7/8: You’re An Alternative

When They See You as a 7/8: You’re Not Competitive

When They See You as a 7/8: You May Be a Rebound

Mating Frustration

Case Study: Why Won’t You Let Me Hit?

The case study titled, “Why Won’t You Let Me Hit?” explores the frustration a romantic partner might have with an individual with a restricted sociosexual orientation, who needs more time before he or she decides to pursue sex.

Case Study: You Cannot Compete with a Baby

This case study titled, “You Cannot Compete With a Baby,” explores the misconception that our battles are with the ex-partner and their baby. However, the struggle is never with the physical baby. The struggle is with how your current partner treats his or her ex-partner as a baby that he feels he needs to comfort even to the detriment of a relationship with you. 

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