Welcome to the Understanding Relationship Failure audio lecture series. These are the third set of audios. Last update: January 6, 2021
Understanding Relationship Failure: Mate Retention Matters (Reason #7) provides insight into mate value, mate retention, and self-perceived high mate value. People will often retain a mate who they perceive as having higher mate value relative to current partners. There is a distinction between self-perceived high value mate status and the group consensus on high value mate status. Mate value, particularly high value mate status, is a major reason for why a relapartner might marry someone else.
Understanding Relationship Failure: Cheating Matters (Reason #8) provides insight into the notion that people are more successful and productive at cheating than they are at working through and completing relationships. Cheaters, who promote cheating as a lifestyle, are essentially deliberate losers. It is much easier and convenient to cheat than to stay. The consistent pursuit of cheating and the need to lose consecutively is likely a reason why relationships faitners might marry someone else.
Understanding Relationship Failure: Procrastination Matters ( is the most comprehensive of all audios because it integrates typical life issues and battles with problem solving from a general sense and then from particular contexts. People who procrastinate often procrastinate the learning process and procrastinate their progress overall. Procrastinators may not be lifelong learners. Procrastination is an avoidance of normative standards and is one reason why a partner might marry someone else.
Understanding Relationship Failure: Social Identity Matters (Reason #10) provides insight into the different identities we adopt as a result of being part of multiple societies. Men and women are often socialized based upon their gender to adopt and conform to certain societal roles and social expectations. These identities might hinder other goals in romantic relationships. Identity is one reason why a relationship fails or a partner might marry someone else.
Understanding Relationship Failure: The Role of Self-Assessment, Part III (Preparation Matters) provides insight into the psychology of moving forward by conducting a self-assessment. It arguably should be the last part of this series, but it is also important to think about the concept of self-assessment as you review the reasons. It serves as a setup and followup for the reasons discussed under the series.