Hello
Welcome
Welcome to Life Talk RAW. Reflect, Assess, & Write, or RAW, are based on the Life Setback Research Project and preliminary audio lectures as well as the Life Talk Audio Lectures. Development of RAW is in progress. These are preliminary considerations.
Introducing RAW
Part of the Life Talk Audio Series
The Rebound Girl Life Talk series addresses thinking and belief systems that set us back.
The series focuses on encouraging site visitors to begin addressing why they continue to remain in toxic relationships and perpetuate them within multiple areas of their lives.
This section provides access to journaling exercises.
Journaling Exercises
This section will make use of RAW:
- Reflect
- Assess
- Write
You will learn how to reflect on the impact people have had on your life, assess and critique their contributions, and write yourself out of toxic, close encounters.
RAW is useful for recognizing that you are in a setback and further helping you to write towards comeback.
Mission Statement
The mission of Rebound Girl Life Talk is to encourage site visitors and Favors Learning Center
Online site visitors to confront their decision-making and their tolerance for toxic relationships.
We are committed to helping people move towards thrive, wellness, and psychological well-being.
Applying RAW
Grid of Toxic Relationships Tasks
The Grid of Toxic Relationships should help you to begin thinking (reflecting) about aspects of your life that might not be productive or might serve as hindrances.
We are 100% responsible for the decisions we make.
At the same time, we can be well-intentioned in our dealings with people that it affects how we manage our lives. Some people may be in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. It is up to you to take inventory of your life, influences, and hindrances and decide about how you’re going to move forward.
Tasks
Task #1: View
Consider the following tasks as you move yourself out of setback and towards comeback.
Access the video titled The Drunk Driver Never Gets Killed. Listen to it. Take notes.
You can access the video on Patreon, YouTube, and/or Reginayfavors.com
Task #2: Examine
Examine the Grid of Toxic Relationships. Consider one or more of the questions in your journal response. It is a mere reference guide.
Task #3: Journal
Think about your responses using RAW.
1. Reflect on how much the person has had an impact.
2. Assess their contribution. Assess means to evaluate, to critique. The person is not in front of you, so it should be a little easier to criticize their impact in your life. Visualize their face and their contribution.
What do you have to say about the person?
What are some adjectives you might consider in describing the person?
Use those adjectives to help you form your response.
3. Write out your conclusion for how you will maintain or conclude that person’s influence in your life. Do you consider the person to be a problem in your life? If you do not, then the person should not be on your grid. You should not need to journal a response using this grid.
Once you finish the journaling process, continue to think about how you will exit one or more of the toxic relationships under the grid.
Categorizing RAW
Grid of Toxic Relationships Long Form Item Explanations
Type of Relationship
Type of Relationship is based upon multiple categories:
Romantic Relationship
Family Relationship
Work Relationship
Friendship
Dating Relationship
Business Partnership
Religious Relationship
Marriage Relationship
School Relationship
Advocacy Relationship
Name of Person
Name of Person is the individual for whom you are willing to consider journaling.
RAW
Use of RAW is based upon the Life Talk Audio series.
-Reflect
-Assess
-Write
Reflect requires you to think about the relationship. Assess requires you to critique that person’s contribution to your life. Write requires you to contemplate how you will write yourself out of setback to contemplate comeback.
Conclusion
After completing RAW, Conclusion requires you to conclude the person or the person’s impact in your life. Is the person in your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime?
Surveying RAW
Romantic Relationship
Romantic Relationship
Romantic Relationship
This is a long-term partner.
What is the dysfunction?
Write out a plan to address dysfunction.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Family Relationship
Romantic Relationship
Romantic Relationship
This is a blood partner(s).
Do you set boundaries?
Write out a plan for saying “no.”
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Work Relationship
Romantic Relationship
Work Relationship
This should be a boundary partner.
How close are you to this person?
Write out a plan for maintaining your job.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Friendship(s)
Business Partnership
Work Relationship
This is a choice.
Has there been growth?
Write out a plan for addressing challenges.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Dating Relationship
Business Partnership
Business Partnership
This is the sex market.
Are you ready for sex?
Write out a plan for managing sex.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Business Partnership
Business Partnership
Business Partnership
This is a contractual relationship.
Do you understand contract law?
Write out a plan for closing gaps.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Surveying RAW
Religious/Faith Relationship
Religious/Faith Relationship
Religious/Faith Relationship
This is a belief system.
Are you equally yoked?
Write out a plan for addressing atheism.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Marriage Relationship
Religious/Faith Relationship
Religious/Faith Relationship
This is the marriage market.
Do you believe in forever?
Write out a plan for addressing openness.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
School Relationship
Religious/Faith Relationship
Advocacy Relationship
This is a recording system.
Do you attend to study?
Write out a plan for conscientiousness.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Advocacy Relationship
Rebound Relationship(s)
Advocacy Relationship
This is optional.
Do you understand the problem?
Write out a plan for how you will educate yourself.
Is this person in your life for a reason, a season?
Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime?
Toxic Relationship(s)
Rebound Relationship(s)
Rebound Relationship(s)
This is dangerous.
Do you understand the danger?
Write out a plan for how you will assess the danger the relationship is to you.
Is the toxic relationship necessary?
Do you want the toxic relationship for a reason, a season, or for a lifetime?
Rebound Relationship(s)
Rebound Relationship(s)
Rebound Relationship(s)
This affects your self-esteem.
Do you understand that you are interesting but not essential?
Write out a plan for how you will assess your own worth?
Is the rebound relationship necessary for your existence?
Do you want to keep the rebound relationship?
Journaling RAW
Final Process
Refer to the Grid of Toxic Relationships.
Refer to the questions under the type of relationship category.
Date: ______________________________________________________________
Type of Relationship: ___________________________________________________
Name of Person: ______________________________________________________
RAW
Reflect: What impact has the person had in your life?
___________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________
Assess: Visualize their face and their contribution. What do you have to say about the person? What are some adjectives you might consider in describing the person? Use those adjectives to help you form your response.
___________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________
Write: Do you consider the person to be a problem in your life? What problem do they bring to the relationship? Journal response.
___________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________
Conclude: Is this person in your life for a reason, a season? Do you want the person in your life to be for a lifetime? Journal response.
___________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________
(C) Copyright 2019, Regina Y. Favors, Favors Learning Center Online. All Rights Reserved.