Welcome to the FAVORS Life Recovery Coaching (LRC) Curriculum. This page is in development. Last rev. 12/30/2020.
The mission of the Favors Life Recovery Coaching Curriculum (LRC) is to provide the tools to help individuals address and overcome life's little setbacks in three areas--academically, professionally, and personally--through books, serials, and online learning content.
People can experience academic, professional, and personal failures. However, people typically have the tools to manage academic and professional setbacks because there are a wide range of self-help books and guides to manage multiple processes. Different life coaches offer leadership curricula as well as therapeutic tools.
Where people often struggle is with recovering from romantic relationship setbacks that affect their psychology and their subsequent decision-making. Struggling to overcome a rebound relationship or the breakup of a marriage is a difficult process because it requires making peace with the idea that you will need to "let go." Letting go is the first part of the process to moving yourself through the grieving processes.
People will often argue that they need closure before they can let go, but letting go is necessary whether you have received closure or not. Hanging on to a breakup and/or romantic relationship and/or marital failure affects how you see yourself. It prolongs and procrastinates the learning processes that are needed to help you see yourself as an exception to the rule in your academic, professional, and personal lives. Holding on affects your worldview
The Favors Life Recovery Coaching Curriculum teaches and guides you through addressing and overcoming your setback(s) and adopting a transition plan. This curriculum ushers you to the life vision you must adopt: that you are the exception to the rule.
The full curriculum is in development. The current series of books is available on Amazon (print and eBook) and on this website (eBook) as a digital download. Click the "Shop" tab to establish an account and purchase one or more of the downloads. The titles of the books and related works are housed in the next sections.
The curriculum includes various Power Point lectures (audios) and related research content.
The curriculum also includes survey instruments housed under the "Coach" tab.
Thank you for your patience.
This page is in development. Last rev. 10/28/2019, 11/12/2019, 2/9/2020, 12/30/2020
The most important aspect of life rebound and recovery is writing the vision: How do you want to rebound and recover from life's little setbacks? This is an important question for your journey from setback to comeback.
The following are the Core Values for The Favors Life Recovery Coaching Curriculum and are further discussed in the following sections:
Write the vision down is a biblical concept.
We base our content development and self-help guidance on this one scripture housed in Habakkuk 2:2-3 (KJV):
2 And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. 3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.
Writing the vision of yourself leaving from setback to comeback begins the process. Without a solid, affirming statement that tells yourself and the people around you that you want out of your current situation, it would be difficult to establish a short-term, medium-range, and long-term plan.
Writing the vision down in a journal, on a notepad, or even using your digital devices motivates you to engage yourself, create meaningful and productive goals, build a work ethic, and re-establish yourself.
There is an additional important concept necessary for transitioning out of setback and into comeback: work ethic.
Without work ethic, you will not be able to accomplish any goal, even if that goal is a sound. Work ethic is based also on a scripture housed in James 2:26 (KJV):
26 For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.
Without putting action to your mission, purpose, goals, and plans, you will not be able to accomplish anything of true intent. In other words, your actions reinforce and support your intent.
Self-discipline and self-control are necessary.
Self-discipline and self-control are predictors of immediate, short-term, and long-term successes. There are both various scriptures and psychology research on self-discipline/self-control.
For the biblical, here is a short list of scriptures housed in Proverbs and Timothy (KJV):
He that hath no rule over his own spirit
is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue:
and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
A fool uttereth all his mind:
but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
2 Timothy 1:7
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
These scriptures support the notion that control over your heart, mind, spirit, and anger is key to addressing and resolving issues that ushered in a setback.
Self-Control vs. Grit
The psychology research on self-control compared to grit is also important for understanding the difference between success and achievement.
In Duckworth and Gross's (2014) "Self-Control and Grit: Related But Separable Determinants of Success," the authors discuss self-control as the ability to regulate attention, emotion, and behavior when presented with temptation. Self-control requires understanding the difference between a "valued goal" and an "alluring goal" (Duckworth & Gross, 2014, p. 319).
Grit, on the other hand, requires sticking with a goal for years, even decades, working assiduously toward a goal that might take 10, 15, or 25 years to achieve (Duckworth & Gross, 2014).
Life vision is such a goal as well as accomplishing educational goals, professional aspirations, and personal finance objectives.
Achievement, not just success, is key.
The goal of life is to solve problems.
Achievement requires you to hone in on a single problem and investigate it until you reach conclusion and prepare the work for the next person.
Adopting a problem-solving approach helps you to reach towards mastery. The psychology research on goal orientation suggests a difference between learning goal orientation (LGO) and performance goal orientation (PGO) (Attenweiler & Moore, 2006).
A person with a learning goal orientation is willing to work to develop, to pursue mastery. The person believes that abilities are not fixed and can be developed over time. In contrast, a person with a performance goal orientation believes that abilities are fixed and cannot be changed; the person focuses on short-term performance results.
It is the person who employs a learning goal orientation who is likely to become a subject matter expert in his or her field.
Understanding that problem-solving is key to productivity will help you reach life wellness.
Lifelong learning is at the heart of ensuring that you manage and sustain your goals and life purpose. It helps you to perpetuate yourself as a contributor to your field and to yourself.
Pursuit of mastery and expertise requires lifelong learning.
Everyone needs a contribution argument.
Contribution argument is a term specific to doctoral education. Graduate students study books and works and complete annotated bibliographies and literature reviews in their field for two to three years, sit for a comprehensive examination, and write a dissertation on their topic and field.
Th goal is to contribute to the field in a significant way. Efforts that represent traditional thinking are not always acceptable. It is important to study and prepare for the contribution you will make to your field and to your life.
The development of a contribution argument requires time, preparation, development, and grit just as much as the implementation of a goal or plan does.
Change should be at the heart of long-term decision-making.
According the psychology literature, the Transtheoretical Model, or Stages of Change, focuses on the assumption that people do not change their behaviors quickly and rapidly, rather through a cyclical process. There are six stages of change that focus on "intention:":
Precontemplation is the first stage towards change. People do not intend to take action during this stage during the foreseeable future, which represents approximately six months. Behavior is problematic, but people often are not aware that their behavior produces negative consequences.
They have not yet acknowledged that they have problematic behavior that needs to be changed. People under this stage focus on the negative aspects of changing their behaviors. They focus on the cons versus the pros.
At this stage, people will validate their lack of readiness, encourage re-evaluation of current behavior, encourage self-exploration but not action, and explain and personalize risks to behavior.
Intention towards change in the foreseeable future begins with the goal of adopting healthy behavior. The foreseeable future is defined as the next six months. There is an awareness that behavior is problematic and that thoughtful consideration is necessary, but they are not sure of wanting to make a change. People weigh both the pros and cons of changing their behaviors, even if they may still harbor feelings of ambivalence towards changing their behaviors.
At this stage, people will validate their lack of readiness, clarify that the decisions they make are theirs, encourage the pros and cons of behavior change, and identify and promote new positive outcome expectations.
Preparation focuses on determination. At this stage, people are getting ready to change. Under Preparation, people are ready to take action within the next 30 days. There are small steps towards change, but people believe that change will lead to living a healthier life.
At this stage, people identify and assist in problem solving, help identify social support, verify underlying skills for behavior change, and encourage small initial steps.
Willpower is another word for action. By the time people get to the Action stage, people have changed their behaviors within the last six months. Their intention is to keep moving forward to sustain behavioral change. To sustain behavioral change, people will modify their problem behaviors and acquire new healthier behaviors.
At this stage, people focus on restructuring cues and social support, bolster self-efficacy for dealing with obstacles, and combat feelings of loss to reiterate long-term benefits.
Behavior change is sustained at this stage, for more than six months. There is an intention to maintain behavior change going forward. The goal at this stage is to prevent relapse to earlier stages. Reflection may be a type of reflection process people adopt to ensure change is sustained.
At this stage, people will plan for follow-up support, reinforce internal rewards gained, and discuss coping with relapse.
It is at the Termination stage where people are no longer desiring to return to unhealthy behaviors. Termination is characterized as a stage where people are certain that they will not relapse. Termination is a stage that people rarely reach. People often stay at the maintenance stage. Termination is often not considered in health promotion programs. Termination is also considered as Relapse.
At this stage, people evaluate their triggers for relapse, reassess motivation and behaviors, and plan stronger coping strategies.
Last rev. 2/10/2020, 2/28/2020, 12/30/2020
Favors Learning Center (FLC) Products include multiple books, serials, and online content.
Three (3) major handbooks guide the development of online learning content and related books and workbooks.
The Favors Life Recovery Coaching Curriculum is comprised of three (3) major handbooks that guide the development of subsequent books and online learning content as well as related books and workbooks.
The online learning content explores various topics, including, but not limited to, rebound relationships, relational termination, mate value, mate switching, mindset, goal orientation, parenting styles, and gender socialization.
The full curriculum includes books, online content, and journals/workbooks.
All titles are considered work in progress.
Expected completion date is late summer 2021 Links will be added at a later date.
Tentative Book Titles (New)
How to Become a Single Adult: Developing Life Plans and Legacy Single With Purpose: Aligning Life Plans with Pursuit of Financial Stability, A Journal & Workbook
The tentative titles are expected to be completed late 2021.
Print & eBook
Three major books guide the development of multiple series and online learning content. The following sections outline the titles that are complete, in progress, or in revision. They are expected to be complete and self-published by Summer 2021.
Handbooks, Guides & Manuals
Toxic Encounters: Why People Pursue Rebound Relationships, A Handbook, Part I
Toxic Encounters: Adult Attachment and the Problem with Rebounding, A Handbook, Part II
Toxic Encounters: Why You Should Go No Contact, Post-Rebounding, A Handbook, Part III
Overcoming Setback: Five Keys for Entering & Exiting Correction, Handbook with Workbook & Guided Activities, Part I (Undergoing editing)
Overcoming Setback: Seven Keys for Managing the Post-Correction Process, Handbook with Workbook & Guided Activities, Part II (Not started)
Life Talk Topics Explained: How to Rebound and Recover from Setback (Book) (Ongoing)
The Favors Guide to Financial Recovery (Not started)
The Favors Manual for Life Recovery: A How-To Guide (?) Overcoming Setback Manual & Writing Seminar (Not started)
Emotionally Sick: Toxic Men and Women & Why They Still Marry People, for Singles, Married, and Long-Term Partners (finishing)
Overcoming Procrastination: 12 Keys to Help You Move from Process to Progress, for Chronic Procrastinators (in revision)
To Be Determined
Good Girls Don’t Date (Late 2021)
Off the Rebound Path: 7 Keys to Guard Against Rebound Weight Gain (2020)
Off the Rebound Path: Cookbook Recipes to Prevent Rebound Weight Gain (2020)
All Life is a Rebound: A Memoir (2021)
Last rev. 2/10/2020, 12/30/2020
Favors Learning Center (FLC) Products include multiple books, series, and online learning content. All titles are considered work in progress.
Expected completion date is late summer 2021 Links will be added at a later date.
YouTube Audio Series, Online Learning Content
All online learning content falls under the category of A Life Rebound & Recovery Series.
Favors Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum (New, 12/30/2020)
Personal Mission Statement
My mission is to create content that educates women on pre-planning necessary as a single adult individual by using my abilities as a teacher and writer and conscientiousness to encourage women into discovery and use of their gifts and talents before marital consideration.
Program Mission Statement
The mission of the Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum is to prepare women to enter singleness and make sound life decisions through proper planning, research, and writing.
The Pre-Singles Counseling Coaching Curriculum is currently in development. The titles are complete and are exptected to be uploaded to the YouTube channel in two weeks. The titles include the following:
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Understanding the Gift of Singleness, An Orientation
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: The Mating Market & Mate Poaching
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: The Mate Switching Hypothesis
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Retention Behaviors
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Mate Value & Mate Preference
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Good Girls Don’t Date
Pre-Singles Counseling Lesson: Why Alpha Males Do Not Win in the End
Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: Why Won’t You Let Me Hit?
Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: 9/10, 7/8, 5/6, Which One Has Value?
Pre-Singles Counseling Case Study: When They See You as a 7/8
Life Talk Series
Life Talk Topics: Take Inventory of You
Life Talk Topics: When They Pull at You to Pull Back
Life Talk Topics: Procrastination 101: A Survey
Life Talk Topics: The Drunk Driver Never Gets Killed
Life Talk Topics: Why People Are Angry
Life Talk Topics: Not Everyone is Hurt Over Losing You
Life Talk Topics: Life is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Life Talk Topics: Getting Offended Easily Reveals Your Weakness
Life Talk Topics: What I Would Tell My 16-Year-Old Self (re-recording)
Rebound Relationship Special Topics
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: I’m Too Special for a Dating Rotation
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: I’m Not Going Your Way
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Respect Your No
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Some People Can Get You Killed
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Not Everyone is Built for a Relationship
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Don’t Let Him Move In
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: I’m Too Special for a Shacking Situation
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Why Relationships Fail
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: When You Play Yourself
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: When You Meet Your Snake
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: When You Hold Down a Cheater
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: When You Burn Out
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: When Rest is Needed After Breakup
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: When He Uses Your Money
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: The Woman Who Says She Should Have Cheated
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: The One Who Got Away
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Stop Parenting Your Man
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: Dealing With Relationship Failure
Rebound Relationship Special Topics: TBD
Rebound Relationship Series
Understanding Relationship Failure: Hastiness Matters (Reason #1)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Rebound Matters (Reason #2)
Understanding relationship Failure: Goal Matters (Reason #3)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Mate Switching Matters (Reason #4)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Choice Matters (Reason #5)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Pre-Marriage Matters (Reason #6, Part I)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Pre-Marriage Matters (Reason #6, Part II)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Pre-Marriage Matters (Reason #6, Part III)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Pre-Marriage Matters (Reason #6, Part IV)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Mate Retention Matters (Reason #7)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Cheating Matters (Reason #8)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Procrastination Matters (Reason #9)
Understanding Relationship Failure: Social Identity Matters (Reason #10)
Social Psychology Topics Lessons
Parenting Styles & Implications for Romantic Relationships: Introduction to Four (4) Child Rearing Styles (in progress)
Power Dynamics in Rebound Relationships: Introduction to the Six (6) Power Principles (in progress)
Rebound Relationship Series: Annotated Bibliography (In progress)
Rebound Relationship Series: Literature Review (In progress
Favors Chronic Homelessness Studies
Understanding Chronic Homeless Series: Problems with Permanent Supported Housing (in progress)
Rebound Girl Writing Workshop: Write from Pain
Rebound Girl Writing Workshop: Character Development (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writing Workshop: Why Dialogue Development is Important (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writing Workshop: TBD
Writer’s Workshop Series
Rebound Girl Writer’s Workshop Series: Business 101: Scaling the Brand (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writer’s Workshop Series: Business 102: Basic Contract Law (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writer’s Workshop Series: Business 103: Self-Publishing (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writer’s Workshop Series: Business 104: Own Your Publishing (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writer’s Workshop Series: Business 105: Know Indirect Competition (In progress)
Rebound Girl Writer’s Workshop Series: Business 106: Timing is Key (In progress)
Off the Rebound Path Podcast:
Last rev. 2/10/2020, 12/30/2020